Today, my dad unfriended my sister from his Facebook friends list.
It seems pretty juvenile and childish when you say it out loud. It looks somewhat more reasonable in “print”. I think…
My dad is a 69 year old recent retiree, who has a lot of free time. He watches t.v., calls and e-mails politicians, fights with conservatives on the internet and at Wal-Mart (this is according to my stepmom) to fill his time when he cannot go fishing or camping. He doesn’t have a hair trigger, but he also doesn’t keep his mouth shut.
I can remember sitting in my grandmother’s (his mother’s) livingroom listening to her call Reagan either a “bastard” or “lying S.O.B.” when I was a kid.
I myself have been known to argue virtually, in person, e-mail politicians, and argue with them in meetings. I would like to take all of the credit for being an impassioned loudmouth, but as illustrated above, I come from a long line of hotheads.
So, it should come as no surprise to me (although it does), that my sister is also a hothead. She and my half brother moved to Texas when we were kids with their mother. They are now certified Texans. Not to generalize, but they’ve turned into gun toting CINOs who bitch about the government while receiving aid FROM the very horrible socialist/marxist/communist government that they rail against. It is fucking wrong.
So, in an effort to keep my blood pressure low, I blocked her from my feed. I don’t have a clue what pictures of “Socialist in Chief” she puts up anymore. She is too ignorant to even argue with about it. Don’t even get started with guns. Charlton Heston would be jealous.
Apparently, the voting down of the background checks in the Senate yesterday unleashed a firestorm between the two of them. This included my dad dropping the f-bomb in the form of “they are not coming to take your fucking guns.” My dad, btw, owns multiple guns, but has REFUSED to join the NRA since probably the mid 90′s when they started getting ultra conservative. I’ve seen him tear up his old NRA card before (SEE! Hothead).
A little extra information for you….my kids are biracial (black/white) and while my dad was racist when I was growing up, it sure turned him around once he had grandkids that they could be a kid who had all kinds of racial prejudice heaped upon them. The reality of all of his shitty racist views bit him in the ass. HARD. I’m glad for it too. I wouldn’t say he’s perfect. Let’s just say, you better not mess with grandkids or say something racist (HOTHEAD).
He now acknowledges the coded racism, dogwhistles, and not so subtle racism that this country has AMPED up since around 2008. She put up a picture that is supposed to be President Obama crying and I am pretty sure that snapped it.
They exchanged words. He unfriended her and told me he’s not going back.
In one respect, it makes me sad/mad that my father may not have actually gone this far had his grandchildren not been biracial. It might not have made him as sensitive to that crap, right? It makes me sad that she doesn’t get that she’s attacking her own family with racist tactics and lies.
I wish my family didn’t fight, but I know that these fights are going on now all over the world and have been going on forever. I do know that we are moving towards (not there yet!!) a more accepting society of all people. In doing that, tough decisions will need to be made by people about what they will tolerate, even within their own families. Am I obligated to still be close to you as my family member when you are essentially talking shit about my husband and kids? I don’t know. My immediate inclination (HOTHEAD) was to snap and start arguing with her, but I’m trying to be calm. Sort it out. Figure out how to have a reasonable discussion with her about this situation aka not be myself. NOT be that hothead.
It is a fine line between being calm and letting someone know that you won’t take their bullshit.